by Danetta Kellar
For my dear single co-laborers in motherhood. You know who you are.
Being a single mom is hard work.
Motherhood does not often take a vacation, get a sick day, win the lottery. Like a lioness, the single mom scours the landscape to provide for her children. She is a defender, a provider, a protector.
She is also exhausted.
Single mothers do not have time to curl up in a ball in the corner and cry tears of self-pity.
They are too busy caring for their children. Working. Sitting up late after the kids are sleeping, poring over bills, splicing and dicing the budget to squeeze out another dollar for necessities.
And in the quiet, most personal place, alone with her thoughts, the single mother misses being loved and valued by a partner who believes in her and supports her.
In nations and ethnic groups across the world, I encounter women who are fighting the good fight of single mothering. In some cases, because of abuse, addiction, or strict gender roles, even those who are married faced many of the same trials single mothers face.
Across the globe, women are raising families on their own.
And around the world, those same women are finding hope in the same place, the same Person, regardless their cultural background or language.
The astonishing words of Isaiah reveal the heart of God for the single mother.
I still remember the first day I found it. I will never forget the shock in the eyes of a dear friend as I read it to her. I witnessed the moment her heart realized she was seen and known by God. Rejected by a husband who nearly blinded her eyes with hot iron rods, she was utterly alone. Or so she thought.
“…Your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit—a wife who married young, only to be rejected,” says your God. -Isaiah 54:5-6
You do not have to live husband-less, single mother.
Your Maker, the one who created you, is calling. He is inviting you to a deeper place of trust, of intimacy, of provision. Can you trust him today to fill the void?
It takes courage, dear one, for you have been wounded. With scarred and gentle hands, your Redeemer longs to bind your broken heart.
God will never reject you or abandon you.
He will defend you.
He will fight for you.
He will provide what you need.
He will show you your value to him and remind you that you were made to be loved.
You are beautiful to him.
This husband-God will occupy all the space you will give him, and in everything you do, His mighty strength will go before and stand behind you. He will be your shield and fortress. His love will comfort and heal your shattered, exhausted heart.
Lord, help me trust you to fill the void my husband left behind. Amen.